In The Meantime [More Key Points]

Here are a few key things that I've read today from 'In The Meantime'. I'm not sure how they will help someone else but I know they have opened up more consciousness for me in my own life:

Love conquers all right? Wrong! Love cannot work through dishonesty, denial, fear, or people pleasing. It is physically impossible for two things to occupy the same space at the same time. Where there is fear, love cannot abide. When there is overt dishonesty, out-and-out lying, hiding, and denial, love cannot be.

... Nothing is more common in the meantime than expecting or demanding that a person do what we already know they will not or are incapable of doing.

...Asking someone to do what we know they are unable to do,, or demanding that they do what we want them to do, knowing that they are afraid and/or confused is a very unloving and unkind thing to do to ourselves and to other people. You must listen to what people do, not what they say. People always demonstrate their intentions, their expectations, through their actions. They may swear to high heaven that they will do this or that, but DO remains the operative word.

Often in relationships things don't work out because the people we are attracted to are taking another path to the summit. Each of us, from our own position, tries to convince the other to walk the path we have chosen.

...You must walk the path that is true for you. The path you walk doesn't have to be the TRUTH, it only has to be true for you.

You may love a person dearly but you must also accept that they not walk the path with you. They have chosen another way, another lesson, one which may not be complementary to yours. Which raises the second issue: Learn to face the truth.

If you do not love yourself enough to live in your own integrity, if you do not have a solid sense of self-value and self-worth, loving other people is going to be difficult.

One aspect of unconditional love is being able to give of yourself without expectation of return or reward.

Letting go which is a form of housecleaning, does not mean you stop loving. It means that you make a conscious choice about how to love, which can include loving someone from a distance.

Why don't we have the courage to say what it is we expect, want, or need?

When we refuse to accept that people can walk a path different from ours, or when we attempt to drag them onto ours, we dishonor them, as well as ourselves.